In June, I completed the oral defense of my doctoral dissertation on “A Conceptual Model for the Physical, Mental and Emotional Factors that Define the Human Male and Female Sexual Response Cycles”. That’s quite a mouthful— but, in essence, it’s about the similarities and the differences in how men and women experience sex.
I chose that dissertation topic because I can’t think of a better way to describe the things that enable us humans to richly experience our sexuality, nor can I think of a better way to spotlight the things that can go out of whack with our sexuality. There is a pattern to sex, though with lots of room for personal variation. That’s one of the big reasons that sex can appear so mysterious: what works well between one couple at a particular time may not work well between other people, or even for the same people at a different time.
At this point, I have easily over a thousand hours of training in sexological and coaching matters, delivered by preeminent sexologists and coaches. I’m in a position to provide my clients with much-needed sexual education, and to debunk the widespread misunderstanding and misrepresentation of how sex and intimacy work. Doing this is my passion; I can think of few things as personally satisfying as helping someone discover and then embrace their true sexuality. I consider such opportunities a true privilege.
Knowing how valuable and needed this knowledge is, I’m a little puzzled and bemused at how challenging it has been to build my client-base. Sure, sex is a challenging topic to discuss, and intimacy is perhaps even more so. Our culture is pretty sex-negative, and sex is a taboo topic. Still, I’m sure that many women intuitively understand and gravitate to my “loving softly” approach to lovemaking and intimacy. Fewer men might resonate with this approach, at least till they think about it a little. What I’ve found is that almost all of the members of my “Loving Softly” online Meet-up group are, in fact, guys. I need to re-think my perspective!
I look forward to serving more clients in the near future, both individuals and couples, as well as through my group seminars. I expect to deliver a lot of value, and I know I’ll learn a lot in the process. To build engagement, I’m also adding a user forum to this website, so that we can identify and discuss the things that matter most to my site visitors. I sincerely invite you to participate. By all means take advantage of what I have to offer you!