Pushing the Boulder Uphill

Well, I just got off a teleconference that I was trying to use to launch my new “Loving Softly” Meetup group, on Meetup.com.  It was almost a bust— saved by new member Carl, who turned out to be a wealth of experience and fresh perspective.  (Thanks, Carl!)

This was undoubtedly just the first of what will undoubtedly become a string of near-misses, en route to nucleating a strong group.  The odds against success can sometimes seem a little daunting: I’m trying to create a safe space in which my fellow explorers and I can hold deep and sometimes challenging discussions about sexuality, sensuality, intimacy, and the relationships between these.

Our society simply doesn’t have time, patience or tolerance for these themes— yet they are all central to who we are, as human beings.  It seems to me that there’s a pent up but repressed demand for such discussions. My Meetup group  embodies my placing a bet that this is the case.  I built it, and now I truly hope they will come!  I know it’ll be worth the effort and risk.  Please join us, if you agree!!!

Good to Be Back

This blog has unfortunately been inactive for several months, due to the many twists and turns that Life takes.  Since my last post, I have earned a doctorate in Human Sexuality— work that is very relevant to the mission of this site and blog.

Sexuality and intimacy are complex and challenging subjects.  There is literally a world of knowledge about these subjects out there, but such knowledge is merely a navigational aid in the experience of living one’s sexuality.  Armed with my large body of formal knowledge, I now look forward to creating ways for people to engage in honest, trusting discussion of these important subjects.

There is normally little opportunity for people to do so, in our often prudish and sex-negative society.  Sex is often seen as a “third-rail” topic in our culture; touch it and die!  In spite of this, sexuality and sensuality are central forces in our lives as human beings; sex is, in essence, our “life-force”.  This dichotomy puts people in the very unfortunate position of having to disown and avoid the acceptance of their sexuality. Widespread personal pain ensues from this rift.

My hope for this blog, this site and the other activities that I orchestrate is to provide fertile terrain for the creation of an online and “real-world” community in which these topics can be safely and constructively discussed.  I believe that there is a latent though tightly bottled-up demand for a space in which to conduct such personal explorations.  If you’re reading this blog and find that you resonate with this idea, please nurture it by sharing your thoughts. Your comments are welcome, and they’ll benefit all participants— including yourself!  Let’s work together to increase our personal freedom.

Welcome to our Blog and Community!

Antelope Canyon in USAThis blog is dedicated to everyone who finds interest in sexuality, sensuality and intimacy— that is, to everyone!  Here, I share my views and observations on these very important matters, and I solicit your own perspectives and feedback.  The constraints on your participation are minimal: be courteous and respectful to all; be open-minded; and let yourself enjoy the ride!  Thanks for joining in.